Chapter 12: Ruling Ourselves
Footnote: Complementary Sexual Valency
Men and women with median sexual valancy are complementary and therefore make compatible partners. But surprisingly so too are the philandering husband with his faithful homewife at one extreme, and the hotwife with her cuckold husband at the other.
The phenomenon of the philandering husband happily married to his stalwartly faithful homemaker wife has been well known and passively accepted by European/Western societies for centuries. The natural occurrence of a certain proportion of these high valency males is exploited for political ends to provide the macho hero primed to defend the interests of his king and country while his faithful wife stays at home to procreate the next generation of cannon fodder.
This same politically induced social conditioning ruthlessly suppresses any acceptance of the converse phenomenon. The faithful cuckold husband happily married to his openly promiscuous hotwife (sometimes unfairly and inappropriately referred to as a slutwife) is roundly condemned. He is made the butt of social ridicule while she is condemned as immoral. The high valency female is seen as having no place in a society built upon male-dominated religious, political and cultural hierarchies.
Yet the explosion of Web sites devoted to this converse phenomenon evinces its natural occurrence within the spectrum of human sexuality. It is only since the social pressures and taboos have been somewhat short-circuited by the open forum of the Internet that we see equally prevalent living examples of both phenomena: the high valency male with his low valency female, and equally, the high valency female with her low valency male.
Both genders of the human species statistically have the same spread of intelligence, interests, abilities and propensities, and share essentially the same hopes, fears and aspirations. They have only slightly different emotional perspectives and of course, complementary reproductive roles.
So contrary to social taboos, the faithful male should realise that he is not 'unmacho' or freaky. Nor should he be embarrassed at the propensity of the highly charged female to whom he finds himself irresistibly attracted. Nor too should the highly charged female think herself biologically abnormal nor be ashamed to declare her love and attraction towards her shy and faithful man.
Whatever our individual sexual propensities, we are all a part of humanity and should therefore use what we are to help transform this present-day exploitative society into a global polyamorous network held together by that ultimate connective force we call love.
Sadly, the philandering husband exacerbated by a socially induced sense of heroic approval, and the modern hotwife fired by her reactionary determination for sexual equality, have both driven themselves to unnatural extremes. Instead of using their sexual propensities to facilitate and enhance the intellectual and emotional development of their marriages and inter-gender friendships, all too many seem to seek ever more bizarre forms of physical gratification.
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©September 2002 Robert John Morton